My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You, or Something Else Entirely
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Gender isn't just about "male" or "female" anymore - if you have any doubts, just turn on your television. RuPaul is as familiar as tomato ketchup with national radio and television shows, and transgendered folk are as common to talk-shows as screaming and yelling. But if the popularization of gender bending is revealing that "male" and "female" aren't enough, where are we supposed to go from here? Cultural theorists have written loads of smart but difficult-to-fathom texts on gender, but none provide a hands-on, accessible guide to having your own unique gender. With My Gender Workbook, Kate Bornstein brings theory down to Earth and provides a practical approach to living with or without a gender.
Bornstein starts from the premise that there are not just two genders performed in today's world, but countless genders lumped under the two-gender framework. Using a unique, deceptively simple and always entertaining workbook format, Bornstein gently but firmly guides you to discover your own unique gender identity. Whether she's using the USFDA's food group triangle to explain gender, or quoting one-liners from real "gender transgressors", Bornstein's first and foremost concern is making information on gender bending truly accessible. With quizzes and exercises that determine how much of a man or woman you are, My Gender Workbook gives you the tools to reach whatever point you desire on the gender continuum.
Bornstein also takes aim at the recent flurry of books that attempt to naturalize gender difference, and puts books like Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus squarely where they belong: on Uranus. If you don't think you are transgendered when you sit down to read this book, you will be by the time you finish it!
queen somewhat-less-than-butch but not fern.” I stick pretty solidly to my role, although it does differ somewhat depending on whether I am wearing a business suit at work or casual clothes in the Castro. I play just a little around the edges-you know, a little eye makeup at Halloween can do wonders. I often think that I would have a very boring, normal, middle class, midwestern life if I were not gay and (therefore) live in SF. I even have a very old-fashioned marriage. I am the breadwinner,
say, it’s important, but only because of the power imbalance bestowed upon us by living in an oppressive system. If a potential friend or lover and I can talk about and get beyond that inherited power differential, then we can progress from there. –Dawne Moon But all other factors being more or less equal, it’s pretty obvious that the two-gender system results in a one-up, one-down dynamic when it comes to economy: people deemed men mostly get the first crack at money and power, and if you’re
Just Say Maybe The trouble starts when gender (identity) ceases to be a reference point for connecting with a living growing person and is substituted for the person hirself. When gender ceases to be a way station and becomes a destination-one of only two possible destinations, at that—then we need to bow out of the gender/identity/power system by invoking the three words that system cannot tolerate: “I don’t know.” I don’t know what a man is. I don’t know what a woman is. I don’t know what
them to the stage one by one to perform their scene again. The coach asks the observers the same questions used to follow Drill Two, above. Drill Six: Perform sexual orientation as a gender cue The coach reviews how sexual orientation might be used as a gender cue, reminding the students that sexual orientation may or may not be based on the gender of one’s chosen partner. The coach asks for examples of different groups, cultures, or communities that have a preferred or imperative sexual
But what good is a fantasy if there’s never any hope that you can one day live it out? ::laughing:: Oh right! That’s a convention I’m going to be using in this workbook from time to time. Words set off by a pairof double colons will follow the cyberspace convention of indicating an action being done by the speaker, or in this case an action being done by me the writer.::waving happily:: means I’m waving up at you from the page here. The Ten-Minute Gender Outlaw Excercise Here’s a simple,